Category Archives: Letting Go

Time Has Come

Posted by James Browning on

Time has come to put it all way: women I loved who did not love me; those whose heart I broke and who broke mine; two I married and divorced; and all the dysfunctions that caused our dramas. Time to love with an open heart as I was never able to before. J.B.

The mark of a real man, is a man who can allow himself
to fall deeply in love with a woman.
But the reason why a man is often heartbroken,
is because a woman can become overcome
by the reality that she has made a man out of a boy,
because it’s just such an overwhelming process,
a beautiful and powerful evolution.
Therefore, a man needs to fall in love
with a woman who knows that men don’t happen every day,
and when a man does happen, that’s a gift!
A gift not always given,
and one that shouldn’t be thrown away so easily.
C. JoyBell C.

The Problem is Me

Posted by James Browning on

I used think meeting someone, falling in love and making a meaningful life together would not be difficult.  I was young and naïve. You’re just the latest to lie, disappoint and hurt me. Finally I’ve realized the problem is me!  I always pick women who are bad for me. E.K.

That feeling you get in your stomach
when your heart’s broken:
It’s like all the butterflies just died.
Unknown

The Good of Having Loved

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Like exercise makes my arms stronger, loving you added strength to my heart. Even though my heart is hurting, the good of having loved you remains. Some days remembering makes life more difficult, but most often my life is better because you were once in it. J.B.

You left behind a broken heart
And happy memories too
But I never wanted memories
I only wanted You.
unknown

Gone Forever

Posted by James Browning on

Most days I get a little better at letting you go, but it’s damn hard! I still love you and miss you. Once in a while I wake up and for a moment wonder why you’re not in bed with me, then I remember; you don’t want me any more. You’ve moved on. I hope some day I can too. F.O.

Forget his name
Forget his face
Forget his kiss
His warm embrace
Forget the love you once knew
Remember he has someone new
Forget him when they played your song
Remember when you cried all night long
Forget how close you once were
Remember he has chosen her
Forget how you memorized his walk
Forget the way he use to talk
Forget the things he used to say
Remember he has gone away
Forget his laugh forget his grin
Forget the dimples on his chin
Forget the way he held you tight
Remember he’s with her tonight
Forget the time that went so fast
Forget the love that moved, it passed
Forget he said he’d leave you never
Remember he is gone forever.
Unknown

Can’t Not Do

Posted by James Browning on

You say you need space and time to figure things out. If you truly loved me there would be no questions; being together would be a “can’t not do”. The uncertainty shows you don’t love me enough to make a commitment. I accept that and am not waiting for you anymore. C.D.

If little by little you stop loving me
I shall stop loving you
Little by little
If suddenly you forget me
Do not look for me
For I shall already have forgotten you.
Pablo Neruda

Passion Alone Isn’t Love

Posted by James Browning on

Love is patient & waits calmly; assuredly; confidently. The yearning & burning; the desire & fire is a primitive need stoked by craving & longing. Passion alone isn’t love. You never come around except to sleep with me. I’m done with that. Don’t show up here again. D.G.

How do they do it,
the ones who make love without love?
Beautiful as dancers,
gliding over each other like ice-skaters
over the ice, fingers hooked
inside each other’s bodies, faces
red as steak, wine, wet as the
children at birth whose mothers are going to
give them away.
How do they do it,
the ones who make love without love?
From “Sex Without Love” by Sharon Olds

Only For A Time

Posted by James Browning on

Some day when the pain stops I will be a better person for having loved you. All of me and everything I had was given and for a time you gave of yourself equally. Things just fell apart. It’s no one’s fault. Because we lasted only for a time does make “Us” a mistake. C.S.

Our wounds are often the openings
into the best and most beautiful part of us.
David Richo

I’m Lost

Posted by James Browning on

I am only me. No more. No less. You tried so hard to change me. If you didn’t like who I am why did you stay for so long? The bitterness from attempting to be someone you wanted will take a long time to get over. I’ve lost part of me and have to find it. I’m lost. L.E.

Every broken heart has screamed
at one time or another:
“Why can’t you see who I truly am?”
Shannon Alder

What He Hides

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You were secretly seeing her when we met and have while we’ve been together. So much deception. So many lies. Now I’m expecting your baby and don’t know what I’ll tell her about you one day. Do I tell the truth or let her discover for herself how weak you are? P.S.

 

Man is not what he thinks he is,
he is what he hides.
Andre Malraux

Everything’s Changed

Posted by James Browning on

Someday, we’ll run into each other again, I know it. Maybe I’ll be older and smarter and just plain better. If that happens, that’s when I’ll deserve you. But now, at this moment, you can’t hook your boat to mine, because I’m liable to sink us both. G.Z.

It’s difficult to ever go back
to the same places or people.
You turn away, even for a moment,
and when you turn back around,
everything’s changed.
Gabrielle Zevin