It hurts to think this may not work out, but I want it to. We’re very different and the years between us take their toll sometimes. How do I stop this turmoil inside me? All I know to do is keep going, hoping and keeping my love for you at the top of my heart. Y.M.
The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves.
We live in denial of what we do,
even what we think.
We do this because we’re afraid.
We fear we will not find love,
and when we find it we fear we’ll lose it.
Insecurities tear at me and it hurts when you go out partying with your friends. You were wild in the past, but I have no reason to doubt you since we’ve been together. Please help me stop the painful worrying about losing you or being cheated on. T.G.
One is easily fooled
by that which one loves.
Jean Baptiste Poquelin Moliere
When I’d get jealous about men talking to you it felt like a monster took me over. I knew you loved me, but still became like Dr. Heckle taken over by Mr. Hyde. Too many times I embarrassed you. It took you leaving me to discover I have a real problem. D.C.
Jealousy is a disease,
love is a healthy condition.
The immature mind often mistakes
one for the other, or assumes
that the greater the love,
the greater the jealousy;
they are almost incompatible;
one emotion hardly
leaves room for the other.
Robert A. Heinlein
I loved you but did not know how to say it. The only love I ever wanted was with you. The life I needed was for ‘US’ to be together. Inside me I kept all my feelings bottled up thinking wrongly you’d somehow know that for me you were the ‘ONE’. R.L.
In truth, there are only two realities:
the one for people who are in love or love each other,
and the one for people who are standing outside all that.
You said I was beautiful. I didn’t believe it. I saw a woman too tall, overweight with lousy hair and big feet. When you’d say “you’re perfect for me” I though it couldn’t be true. I wish I had listened. I put myself down for so much for so long, you got tired of it and left. C.S.
She wanted to have him hold her
and tell her all the demons were pretend,
that there was no monster in her closet,
that everything would be okay.
But that was a lie.
The demon was in her head,
telling her she was too fat.
She had to get the demon out.
But she couldn’t do it by herself.
Jackie Morse Kessler
Did you just get tired of me? Our life was peaceful, loving and happy. Did you get bored? Is that why you left me for someone else? Now you say you made a mistake and want us to get back together. How can I trust you again? I don’t think I can, at least not now. G.L.
Relationships are mysterious.
We doubt the positive qualities in others,
seldom the negative. You will say to your partner:
do you really love me? Are you sure you love me?
You will ask this a dozen times and drive the person nuts.
But you never ask: are you really mad at me?
Are you sure you’re angry? When someone is angry, you
don’t doubt it for a moment. Yet the reverse should be true.
We should doubt the negative in life, and have faith in the positive.
Until the words “I don’t love you anymore” came from your lips I had no idea you were drifting way? Why did I let work take me over so completely that I was losing the most important person in my life and didn’t know it? Without you nothing else matters. T.P.
Isn’t it funny
how day by day
but when you look back
everything is different….
Some people say the worst way to miss someone is when they are right next to you and you know you can’t have them, but it’s worse when you thought you didn’t want them anymore and then all of a sudden you realize you can’t live without them. I’m so sorry. E.A.
If I never met you,
I wouldn’t like you.
If I didn’t like you,
I wouldn’t love you.
If I didn’t love you,
I wouldn’t miss you.
But I did, I do, and I will.
I’m so sorry. I know it’s not easy loving me. Never forget there is no one I cherish as much as you. I act crazy sometimes and do things beyond understanding, but my love for you never falters. I love you for now and always; just you. Please remember that and forgive me. T.M.
I, with a deeper instinct,
choose a man who compels my strength,
who makes enormous demands on me,
who does not doubt my courage or my toughness,
who does not believe me naive or innocent,
who has the courage to treat me like a woman.
The worst mistake of my life was to break up with you. My fear of commitment made me run. The harder you tried to love me and hold on, the greater distance I created between us. I picked fights for no reason to justify leaving you. I’m so sorry. Please forgive me. J.B.
Forgiving is love’s toughest work, and love’s biggest risk.
If you twist it into something it was never meant to be,
it can make you a doormat or an insufferable manipulator.
Forgiving seems almost unnatural.
Our sense of fairness tells us people should pay for the wrong they do.
But forgiving is love’s power to break nature’s rule.
Lewis B. Smedes